Musings from a divorced displaced city girl raising two kids solo in Fairfield county.
Observations of life in suburbia to include parenting, relationships,sex, fashion, friendship, family dynamics, and managing life.
There are many interesting as well as comical aspects of living in this beautiful and pristine part of Fairfield county.
Thanks for Reading Suburban Adventure
Wednesday, February 5, 2014
“The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives”
“That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is. Most people love you for who you pretend to be. To keep their love, you keep pretending – performing. You get to love your pretence. It’s true, we’re locked in an image, an act – and the sad thing is, people get so used to their image, they grow attached to their masks.
They love their chains. They forget all about who they really are. And if you try to remind them, they hate you for it, they feel like you’re trying to steal their most precious possession.” —Jim Morrison
To know me is to comprehend the depth and quality of the connections that I have with others. I do not wear a mask and feel that the ease of connection that I have with people is the result of confidence and my ability to immediately put others at ease.
Why is it so difficult to communicate with your spouse. Why are you afraid to tell him what you need, or what bothers you. If you share your days and your nights with someone, does that not give you the right to be honest in your expression.
Why do men and women not share what they really want out of a relationship. Is it out of fear that it won’t be provided, or perhaps they fear rejection. It serves no good purpose.
The mask that you wear only deters you from getting all that you desire. In time, if you are not honest to your spouse, you are only doing a disservice to yourself and your soul.
We have an obligation to others and yet if we do not honor our own voice, we will be left with nothing to give. The time to remove your mask is right now.
Give validity to your voice, your innermost desires and listen to those around you. The message is there if you want to hear it. xo