My Mother often worries about me since Im divorced. I agree with her that it is indeed "too bad" that my marriage did not work out. However I assure her that I have a great situation. My kids are doing wonderfully well and Im surrounded by great friends and men in my life who contribute to my well-being in several different ways. Would I like to get remarried again- perhaps- however- at the moment my focus is on raising successful children and being internally happy as an individual.
If I looked around and observed happy couples all around me perhaps I might be swayed. This is not the reality that I see. All around me I see dissatisfied people, in search of more.
I see people cheating on each other and I see women who desperately hold on to men who will never change. I also see men who are so insecure that they hold on to past relationships simply to make them feel desirable knowing in their hearts they will never commit to them. I see people satisfied with getting less than they deserve in relationships and holding on in the hopes that happiness will not elude them forever.
It in fact would be wonderfully refreshing to hear from you long-term happily married couples. If any of you happen to be my readers- please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and tell me why I should feel differently than I do. Inspire me and enlighten me- I would be fascinated to hear what makes a marriage successful aside from tolerating someone who annoys you.
I want to hear from people who are genuinely happy not from those of you who are staying married for the convenience of doing so. I challenge you to change my opinion on marriage- please I beg of you.xo